!!! THIS NO LONGER WORKS !!! Follow the Discussion in the FAQ thread.
Woo hoo!
That's it, between Teeth, and Shaggy, I think I have this thing figured out!
Basically there are options in the 'non ladder' / ' not ranked' config files that are not there on the Ranked ones.
BUT - if you switch your server, to non ranked, edit the options there, (including friendly fire options, and the Victory condition score,) save it, then go in, and change it back to a Ranked / Ladder server, the changes that you made will stay with it... I assume that they have to fit within the parameters of a ranked server. (I think I read somewhere once that was at least a 500 points to victory... and I'm not sure about Friendly Fire (which is listed as FF on the config page.)
ok, my work here is done.

now this most likely ought to be edited into something that sounds 'professional' and put in the FAQ.
Or.... just add those options to the dedicated server page... which seems like the better way.
zWolf -out.